Hey all,
I am settling in here and I feel so very much at home, thank you to all who have done this for me! This place is the best place I have ever seen on the web so far and it has that "I'm home " feel to it. I thought I would give a little more perspective on my family and how we fit into our world! We are a mixed family obviously, and we have a 17 year old daughter and a soon to be, 12 year old son. I never could have imagined the honor and pure joy of being a parent, but I know I would never have had the same outlook or love for this had I not gone through my childhood exactly the way I did. The disfunction and challenges of my childhood gave me the determination and willingness to be the parent my children would be able to look to for everything, love unconditionally and most important, trust! Although I new what unconditional love was, my husband was the person that showed me what it felt like for the first time and how to give it! I was born into a gorup of people who were supose to be like me and they were so conditional about everything in my life, especially acceptance and love. Then I met my husband, we didn't look at all similar but the connection was unmistakeable and our ideas about family, children and the future fit like a glove! We were married only 6 months after our first date and we have been side by side for 18+ years now! I have been "challenged" by my illnesses for the better part of 18 years now and not one time has my husband wanted to through in the towel. We have had to file bankruptcy and loosse our home because of all the medical bills and my inability to earn what I should, but we don't argue about money or bills! We talk about them and I try to reasure him daily that he is doing the most amazing job anyone could ever do under the circumstances. Until recently he has always worked 2 or 3 jobs, but he is doing well at UPS and his schedule is too difficult to have a second job. Besides he does a lot of the household things that I should be doing, again without any complaint! We both enjoy our chidren and our life revolves around them. I have had some people say that we need some "us" time, but we are starting to have that now that the children are older and we are close to our children in ways many parents are not anymore! Our children talk to us about anything and everything and many times thier friends come to us as well. It is simply because we take the time to listen and give them some simple attention and mutual respect, while still being the grownups! It can be amazing the responce you can get from teens and children when you just give them time and respect. Our children do very well in school and respect thier elders, friends and most important all other people! I believe with every breath I take that we are all here in a rainbow of colors, sizes and spirits so we can come together and make Gods biggest, most beautiful rainbow ever seen or felt! Are you part of "the rainbow" or part of the dark clouds that try to block the rainbows view? It is up to each one of us what we will do! Blessings to all!
Tags: Mixed Families Unconditional Love
