I enjoy posting my blogs and notes on Healthy Chocolate. It's all good with that. But sometimes I just want to post a little personal note, something to let my friends know me a little better. Tonight I am contemplating the end of what I believe has been a turning point weekend in my personal life and I want to share a little of that.
I'm sure everyone knows how we can fall into those comfortable ruts that life will sometimes tend to bog you down in. And for the last several months, my rut has become muddier, and muddier. But sometimes even when the rut gets muddy, we can't quite figure out why we still cling to it instead of stepping out of that beloved "comfort zone". Without troubling you with or divulging too many personal details, suffice to say I've had one of those life lessons embodied in the statement "the best laid plans of mice and men..." So in my reluctance to let go I continued to cling to a relationship long after my logical being realized it was over. I mourned the days we'd had and the days we never would. And keep in mind this is not a lovers relationship we are speaking of, but a friendship. A BFF situation if you will. So, as this holiday approached i dwelled on our traditional celebrations, doing the same things, with the same people, that we had done for the last 15 years or so. But I knew the discomfort level on both sides of this situation was going to be high, raising the discomfort level for everyone due to the tension. So I steeled myself and declared, "this weekend we are not going to any of the old places, we are going to step up out of this rut and do the opposite". And we did.
I say that to say this; I am feeling so refreshed. I feel as thought I have shed an old skin and started the new day with a shiny one, bright eyed and smooth. But you should know that it was not easy and in a way it was down-right scary. As humans we prefer to stay with the status quo. But all the great "gurus" tell us, if we want to continue to grow in life we must continuously step out of our comfort zone. We cannot be afraid of a change. We must learn to accept that people inevitably change and not always for the better. And most importantly we must learn not to get ourselves stuck in the mud of another person's rut. For our whole lives we change. People move in and out of our lives, and I believe they come and go with divine timing. There's a reason they enter and exit when they do and some that we think will be there forever, won't. My husband and I have discussed many times that had we found each other at any point in our lives that we would never have been together. We met when we did because that was how it was supposed to be.
I guess this is just my rambling but I want to say, don't be afraid to turn loose of something that has gotten stale. If you keep the past clinched in your hand, you cannot open it up to grasp the next great thing. Whether it's your love life, your social life or your business, always look beyond the edge of the rut. 
