By my dear friend and mentor: Rev. Cynthia James
Hidden beliefs we often carry with us:
Everything that goes wrong is my fault and I need to apologize
Being vulnerable causes pain and heartbreak.
Arguments and conflict ALWAYS lead to violence.
In order to be loved I msut be happy all of the time.
I am damaged goods.
I am not capable of being successful.
I need to lie to be safe.
I need to control EVERYTHING.
Everyone must like me and approve of my choices.
I must stay in unhealthy relationships to prove my worth.
Learning:
If I'm trying to control everything I cannot stay on purpose because I am distracted.
Every relationship mirrors to me. In relationship, others are not attracting me to them. I am attracting them to me for my healing. I can walk out of an unhealthy relationship because I deserve more than that.
I am powerful. God is my life.
All healing takes place at the spiritual level-knowing you are God expressing..all the other beliefs are distractions. Must pray, meditate, journal, vision
I am valuable. My story is just info. Just the facts. Change it.
I have a voice and it is essential that I use it.
My mind and my body connect. I must consistently work to keep them aligned.
The secrets of the past have no power over me.
Forgiveness for myself and others is necessary for my health.
Reclaiming myself is a journey of unlimited possibilities.
Radical self-care of myself before others supports my sanity and peace.
I must honor my innocence. I must laugh at myself and not be so serious all the time.
Open my heart and learn this language of the heart..You have to be the thing you want first.
I must work on my willingness..sometimes just being willing to be willing allows you to expand.
These things I know for sure...
